Fine China vs Styrofoam.

Just hear me out here ladies.

When I was in elementary/middle school my mom took me to an event at our church for mothers and daughters called Secret Keeper Girl. It was all about helping mold the mind of young influential girls to have a mind that is captivated on the beauty of Christ and all about finding worth in Him. The “convention” ended by going on a date with our dads and making commitments to purity and wholesomeness as girls who were about to enter the raw, ugly, self-diminishing years of judgement and the desire to fit in.

Well, Momma Sandie, if you ever found yourself wondering if that retreat with you impacted my life, let this blog be the living testimony of how it did and has forever shaped my mind and view of being a lady in this society.

March 15, 2018 I was sitting in Chickfila with one of my best friends, Sara Nell. We were talking about all the events happening in our lives with boys, moving for jobs, struggles of our jobs, weight gain (YES YALL THAT’S NORMAL, YOU ARENT MADE TO STAY THE SAME PANT SIZE FOREVER) all the things we were going through currently in life. Of course, the conversation always draws back to relationships and our desire to find that Thomas Rhett molded boyfriend.

I was listening to her talk about one guy in particular. A guy who wanted all the perks of relationships, all the fun of relationships and cooking dinner together, but didn’t want to put in the commitment or the loyalty a relationship requires. He was basically taking advantage of her pure, affectionate, generous heart and personality. A girl who holds traits the “good guys” put in their checklist for a relationship.

However, as females, once we find a man who will give us attention and fulfill that craving of a cute date every now and then with a good morning text every so often, we find ourselves letting our loneliness push us into the arms of someone who isn’t good for us. We gravitate towards that affection that is temporary and good for single usage but doesn’t hang around and provide consistency.

So, remind you we are at Chickfila. I looked at my cup and remembered back to my elementary school retreat with my Mom. The cup was Styrofoam. My mom taught me Styrofoam is used temporary, it’s cheap and easy to use, easy to make, easy to throw away. She told me “Hannah, always be fine china. Hold yourself with dignity and class. Do not settle and be styrofoam for just any and every one to use. Don’t let yourself be thrown away…view yourself as the beautiful china that is used for purpose and beauty. Remember your worth.”

Maybe it was dumb. Maybe to you this is pointless and makes no connection to you, but to me I was blatantly reminded in a Chickfila dining room that my worth, your worth, Sara’s worth, every woman’s worth is something that should be on top shelf and valued and adored. Not something temporary and convenient for those who want easy and fast.

Sara Nell, you are beautiful and you are fine china. Ladies, you are beautiful and fine china. Don’t be the Styrofoam cup for just anyone. Be that fine wine glass that gets broken out on the big days of celebration. Because you, you are a woman to be celebrated and valued.

Let go of those who treat you as Styrofoam and look to Jesus as he sends along the man who appreciates fine china and beauty. Trust in Him for he knows the longings of your heart and He will not withhold any good thing.